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Tuesday, 16 December 2014

My Week in Ottawa

Well I made it home to Ottawa for a week. It was wonderful, difficult, emotional and very, very hard on my body, mind and soul. Lots and lots of tears were shed for so many different reasons. I loved it, I hated it and just about everything in between. The following letter I'm sending to a 'former' friend kind of sums up last week so I want it recorded here......


Kris
I was thinking for a bit the other day about the very short period of time when we did see each other as good friends without too many issues getting in the way. It was because of that time that I wanted to send you a note. I want to wish both you and Jack the merriest Christmas and new year. I saw someone post the little Red Elf that was so intriguing to me and it’s tradition of hiding places. I assume that once again you are doing that and that both of you enjoy the fun of it all. I do hope you are well Kris and are continuing to improve and are pretty much healed by now living the very normal busy life once again. Unfortunately I have not been too good and have lost the mobility of my body but am getting by using my walker all the time now.

I’m just going to give a brief update on what is happening  up here for me. I spent a week in Ottawa at Kelsey’s lovely HUGE home. Her 6 month old puppy Ben is a very gentle lovely beast. He is well on his way to becoming about 130lb by the time he’s fully grown. I was unable to look for an apartment while there but Kelsey and my most wonderful friend Charlotte will find one together in January. Which of course will be interesting moving to a new home site unseen. All my faith is with them and trust it will be fine.  All the Lawyer papers have now been signed regarding Kelsey becoming my POA so she will be able now to write the cheques needed to secure a place for me. I just sure am hoping that things don’t continue to worsen physically for me and I can stay clear of having to move to a retirement home. This of course will happen eventually but I really want another few years of my hard fought independence. Only time will tell what the Universe has planned for me. Paul is very concerned and angry of what Kelsey being my POA will entail and has made this very clear to me that he will fight me on this if he feels it’s too much for her.  We unfortunately has a very large and vocal fight in front of Kelsey and Bryan.  A lot of tears and anguish over this for each of us. Some days life just sucks everything out of me especially when I was feeling very isolated and just the periodic Mom interrupting their wonderful lives with their Dad. It’s very strange and discouraging for me and of course very sad and unnerving. I’ve felt this before but never as intensely as the week back home.  I hope things will change once I’ve moved back home. I have to find a way to make the changes work as I can’t imagine what life will be like without my kids being around or at least near me!

The apartment here is slowly getting packed up so I’ll be ready to book the moving company as soon as I hear I have an address to move to. I’m not discouraged and I just know things will work out as they are meant to. My strength comes from my Spirituality totally.

So, I guess that sums things up for me. I want you to know I have forgiven you and hope that someday you can forgive me Kris. Releasing ourselves from the burdens of anger and judgements towards each other is something that I know is good. Someday we may even be able to periodically chat but I have no expectations of this as I’m sure you don’t either. I will always remember who you are and what you once meant to me Kris and for that I am very grateful. There once was a need for our paths to cross as they did. That need was well surpassed for both of us. Life is good, difficult at times but still good with so much to still pass by both of us. Be safe, be happy and take the time to just stop, breath deeply and acknowledge all that is good and wonderful in life.  Every day now I take that time to feel the gratitude I need to feel for all that is around me and all that I have.

Have a wonderful 2015 and may all the best come your way for a great year ahead. You will always hold a special place in my heart and soul Kris.

Love always     Deana

 

1 comment:

  1. I do hope Im not repeating myself, but my comment isnt here. I just wanted to say that I am following your blog, you have an interesting life and are very open about it.

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